Are you sick and tired of being sick and tired? Yep, I am speaking about being sick and tired of the dating game. I must admit that it is rough out there. I keep my ear to the ground by watching different podcasts and checking out some of the relationship guru pages. I also hear about the happenings from my clients. Believe me, I understand what you are facing out here concerning the negative thoughts and beliefs that men have somehow adopted about women. Guys no longer want to open doors. The question is, does chivalry still exist? I've heard some guys say, "for what?". I thought to myself, really? I've heard guys say that since women are doing it all, they shouldn't have to help in any capacity. What does that look like? Him having a 50/50 relationship on every level. So gender specific duties are no longer existing.
Men are also afraid to commit. Relationships have left a sour taste in their mouths. He will commit to dating you to death, but marriage is a no-no. Oh let's not forget about how he doesn't want to take you out, or here's one, he likes text relationships. Since you make a lot more money than he does, you might as well initiate everything in the relationship and pay for everything.
My question to you is what are you going to do about it? We can't continue to point out the bad and allow that to turn you sour. It is time for you to get to work my friend. Your belief has to be that the right guy is out there. You also need to believe that you can attract him. What can you do? I'm glad you asked. Every time you read the 10 things below you should say I can, I will, I did.
Work on forgiveness for yourself and forgive those who have brought harm or hurt to you.
Get therapy or book a dating coach
Set an alarm to go off 3 times a day daily with positive affirmations
Meditate on the word of God
Maintain self care (workout, healthy diet, facials, massages, make great decisions for your life, manicure, pedicure, etc.)
Build your confidence up by doing something that you love consistently
Go out with your friends
Take yourself out (i.e., go to dinner, networking events, social gatherings, etc.)
Go on vacation
The idea is to focus on you and your new endeavors. If you want to attract a different guy then you have to flip the switch honey! Heal up and become "New" so you can finally attract the man of your dreams.
Coach Jazzy Cole